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The Truth About The Obamas’ Marriage

The Truth About The Obamas’ Marriage


Has there ever been a cuter couple than Michelle
and Barack Obama? Things have not always been easy, yet, through
it all, they manage to stay happy and in love. What’s their secret? Here’s everything you didn’t know about the
Obamas’ marriage. Sparks at first sight
While they were drawn to each other from the first time they met, Michelle Robinson was
reluctant to date Barack Obama. As depicted in the 2016 bio-flick Southside
With You, the couple met when Barack started working at a Chicago corporate law firm, where
Michelle was assigned as his mentor. Despite Michelle’s reluctance, the former
president revealed to Oprah Winfrey that he was immediately “struck with how tall and
beautiful [Michelle] was,” and said working with her was “the luckiest break of my life.” Michelle finally agreed to a date, and the
pair got to know each other over a nice walk, a Spike Lee flick, and some ice cream. “He was hip, cutting edge, cultural, sensitive,
patient…” “Take tips, gentlemen.” Attracted to ambition
The former first lady has admitted that she wasn’t quite sure her relationship with
Barack Obama would work out when they first started dating, revealing her future husband
“was really broke” when they met, with a “cruddy” wardrobe and a rusted out car,
and telling The Hyde Park Herald: “I thought, ‘This brother is not interested
in ever making a dime.’” Since she’d grown up in a family that lived
paycheck-to-paycheck, Michelle wasn’t eager to start a similarly unstable life with another
person. Still, she found herself drawn to Barack. In a speech at the 2008 Democratic National
Convention, Michelle revealed what kept her by Barack’s side, saying: “He talked about the world as it is and the
world as it should be. And he said that, all too often, we accept
the distance between the two, and we settle for the world as it is, even when it doesn’t
reflect our values and aspirations.” “And isn’t that the great American story?” There was almost no wedding
Impossible as it is to imagine, the Obamas’ celebrated marriage might not have happened
if Michelle had been a little less persistent. According to The Washington Post, Barack was
dedicated to the relationship and madly in love with Michelle, but he didn’t believe
that marriage was necessary, even calling it a “meaningless institution.” Michelle kept turning up the pressure, though,
wanting a decades-long marriage like her parents who had been going strong for 30 years. In 1991, Barack finally surprised Michelle
with a ring after she began to drop some not-so-subtle hints about her plan to be married, reportedly
telling her, “That kind of shuts you up, doesn’t it?” It might not have been the most conventional
of proposals, but it was an effective one. The two were married on October 26th, 1992,
officially taking their commitment to the next level. Infertility struggles
Apparently, Barack and Michelle Obama’s early wedded years weren’t all sunshine
and rainbows. In a 2018 interview with Good Morning America,
Michelle revealed she’d suffered a miscarriage a few years into their marriage, a heavy emotional
blow that put a strain on her relationship with Barack. “And I felt like I failed because I didn’t
know how common miscarriages were…. We sit in our own pain, thinking that somehow
we’re broken.” To conceive Malia and Sasha, Michelle underwent
fertility treatments, having to inject herself daily for several weeks. Since Barack was swallowed up in his state
senate work by that time, Michelle wrote in her memoir Becoming that she was left largely
on her own to ensure her reproductive system’s “peak efficiency,” though her husband
remained sweet and attentive throughout the journey. Fortunately, the grueling process was well
worth it for the couple. On July 4th, 1998, the Obamas welcomed their
first daughter, Malia, with sister Sasha following soon after on June 10th, 2001. Parenthood vs. politics Michelle Obama never set out to be a politician’s
wife, and the years of Barack Obama campaigning and being in public office soon began to take
their toll. In her memoir Becoming, Michelle describes
how her husband’s hectic schedule and long working hours would often cut into his time
with their children, writing: “I understood it was nothing but good intentions
that would lead him to say, ‘I’m on my way!’ or ‘Almost home!’ And for a while, I believed those words. I’d give the girls their nightly bath but
delay bedtime so that they could wait up to give their dad a hug.” “He’s flittering in… there were… tensions
started to arise.” Michelle later told Elle magazine: “I was mad. When you get married and have kids, your whole
plan, once again, gets upended. Especially if you get married to somebody
who has a career that swallows up everything, which is what politics is.” Number one fan
Michelle has always been Barack’s biggest cheerleader, but she confessed that she didn’t
think he had a hope of winning the 2008 presidential election. During her book tour for Becoming, Michelle
revealed that she had no real wish to be the first lady, but supported her husband’s presidential
run anyway, never believing he’d actually win. While Michelle had faith in her husband’s
leadership abilities, she simply couldn’t bring herself to believe that America would,
in her words, “elect a black president named Barack Hussein Obama.” “I was like, ‘Really? You actually pulled this off?'” Still, she threw herself wholeheartedly into
her husband’s campaign, insisting on playing an active role and telling Barack’s aides,
“I’ve never done this before. I just need you to tell me what to do.” Michelle’s unwavering support of her husband
and their aspirational marriage is likely one of the prominent reasons Barack Obama
was able to clinch the election not once, but twice. In 2011, the 44th President of The United
States opened up to Oprah Winfrey about his wife’s importance in his life, telling the
talk show host: “[Michelle] is just my rock, and I count
on her in so many ways every single day.” No shame in getting help
As hard as it might be to believe, the Obamas don’t have a perfect marriage. Their union has been tested at many points
throughout the decades, and Michelle revealed in a 2018 interview with Elle that she and
Barack have sought outside counseling to work through some of their problems. While she admitted that she thought counseling
would ultimately help her make her case against Barack, Michelle said that she ended up learning
a lot more about herself throughout the process, revealing her biggest takeaway to Oprah Winfrey
on her book tour for Becoming: “I need support, and I need some from him,
but I needed to figure out how to build my life in a way that works for me.” Marriage counseling isn’t the the Obamas’
only secret for a successful marriage. In an interview with Today, Michelle revealed
a surprising and hilarious trick the couple uses to keep the spark alive: separate bathrooms. “When he enters my bathroom sometimes I’m
like ‘Why are you in here?'” “‘What are you doing?'” “And he’s like ‘I live here, can’t I enjoy
my bathroom too?'” A happy home
While Barack Obama’s days as a busy senator and presidential-hopeful put a strain on his
home life and marriage with Michelle, the years he spent as President seem to have brought
his family closer together. Though he certainly had a full schedule as
President of the United States, living in the White House meant that Barack could work
from home — and was therefore able to dedicate more time to his wife and children. In an interview with Oprah Winfrey in 2009,
Michelle revealed that having her husband home more often was her favorite part of living
in the White House, saying: “That’s the beauty of living above the office:
Barack is home every day. The four of us sit down to eat as a family… And now I can just pop over to his office,
which sometimes I’ll do if I know he’s having a particularly frustrating day.” However, Michelle said in a 2018 interview
that she doesn’t particularly miss her White House days:
“No, I don’t miss the house, because we took what was important in that house with
us, and it is with us. It’s family, it’s values, it’s the friendships.” Learning to argue
Like any other couple, the Obamas have their differences. And as Michelle Obama revealed to Elle, she
and her husband respond to anger in completely different ways, and unfortunately, Keegan
Michael-Key isn’t always around to be Barack’s anger translator. “And that’s why we’re running for a third
term!” “No, we’re not.” “Oh, we’re not?” Michelle revealed to Elle magazine how learning
to approach arguments and effectively communicate with one another took time and patience, saying: “I am like a lit match… And he wants to rationalize everything. So he had to learn how to give me, like, a
couple minutes, or an hour, before he should even come in the room when he’s made me mad. And he has to understand that he can’t convince
me out of my anger. That he can’t logic me into some other feeling.” “I have opinions.” “She’s got a few views.” In a 2012 interview, the then-President sweetly
doted on his marriage and credited hard times for his and Michelle’s remarkable bond,
telling Barbara Walters: “If you work through the tough times, the
respect and love that you feel deepens.” Making a point to communicate and handle their
disagreements with grace is a mark of how serious the Obamas are about maintaining a
healthy, loving relationship. The love social media
Barack and Michelle Obama are about as cute as couples come, and their social media posts
to each other show how much they’re still feeling the love. In November 2018, Barack couldn’t help hyping
the release of his wife’s memoir, Becoming, writing on Instagram: “Of course, [Michelle is] my wife, so I’m
a little biased here. But she also happens to be brilliant, funny,
wise, one of a kind. This book tells her quintessentially American
story. I love it because it faithfully reflects the
woman I have loved for so long.” And just like the rest of us, these two love
a sweet birthday shoutout. On her husband’s birthday in 2018, Michelle
posted a picture on Instagram of the former president looking off into the distance, captioning
the photo: “Happy birthday [Barack Obama]! The view is always better with you.” Barack had wished his wife a happy birthday
earlier in the year, writing: “You’re not only my wife and the mother
of my children, you’re my best friend. I love your strength, your grace, and your
determination. And I love you more each day. Happy Birthday.” Still the same, despite fame
Power and fame have a way of changing people, but Michelle Obama swears that becoming the
leader of the free world didn’t go to Barack Obama’s head. In her speech at the 2012 Democratic National
Convention, the former first lady praised her husband for staying down to earth, and
said he was still the same man she fell in love with all those years ago. “He’s the same man who started his career
by turning down high paying jobs and instead working in struggling neighborhoods where
a steel plant had shut down, fighting to rebuild those communities and get folks back to work…
because for Barack, success isn’t about how much money you make, it’s about the difference
you make in people’s lives.” Michelle went on to talk about Barack’s dedication
to his children and his devotion to his marriage: “Today, I love my husband even more than I
did four years ago… even more than I did 23 years ago, when we first met.” Here’s some advice
She might have one of the most enviable marriages of the 21st century, but Michelle Obama believes
that the institution of marriage still needs a lot of work. During a speech she delivered as part of her
book tour Michelle told the crowd: “Marriage still ain’t equal, y’all. I tell women that whole ‘you can have it all’…
nope, not at the same time, that’s a lie. It’s not always enough to ‘lean in,’ because
that s— doesn’t work.” The profanity might be surprising coming from
the former first lady who has always been careful about the language she uses, but if
anything, it simply drives her point in further. Michelle is the perfect example of how being
a wife, mother, and career woman is a constant balancing act, and she’s not afraid to tell
the husbands of the world to make more of an effort when it comes to doing their part
as both a spouse and father. In a 2016 interview with Oprah at the first
White House summit on the State of Women, Michelle urged the men in the room to be better
partners and fathers, saying: “Do the dishes, you know?… Be engaged, you know? Don’t just think going to work and coming
home makes you a man.” You tell ‘em, Michelle!

9 thoughts on “The Truth About The Obamas’ Marriage”

  1. Wow, these messages below are great. Glad to see that Anerica finally woke up. B.O. worst ever. Now I'm going to go throw up after watching 2 minutes of this commie stench.

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